Just as water flows and adapts to its surroundings, our identities are fluid and multifaceted yet in alignment with its source. Embracing fluidity means acknowledging that who you are is not static but rather dynamic and ever-changing. It is supernatural for the mind to keep revolving, the scriptures describe it as the renewing of the mind. It allows us to break free from the constraints of societal expectations and embrace the fullness of our being. Let’s take a deep dive into the scripture, Romans 12:2(NIV); ‘’Do not conform to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing, and perfect will’’. This statement underscores the importance of understanding that our identity isn’t fixed in the past but rather evolves. If our mindset remains stagnant, it suggests that we’ve conformed to societal norms, even if they’re flawed. Society thrives in forming patterns, even with all its imperfections. Society wants us to be static on what it taught us, it tells you this has been the norm, society does not even view all sides, it’s just what has been there. But God’s word, the human Creator says we should do otherwise. Let me touch on a sensitive topic, from where I come from, Northern Ghana the male gender is taught to be entitled and the female gender is restrained to be responsible. It has been so and it continues. Leading to strained relationships, rising egos and defensive behaviors. Let me not digress. Back to identity; becoming self-aware of who you are in Christ conforms you to embrace everyone from the angle of love while guarding your mind and heart with God’s shielding love. You will not need to defend yourself by saying I am this when a person’s tantrums question you.

Fear can play a role in influencing one’s identity, but it’s important to remember that we’ve been granted power not for misuse. Instead, we’re called to serve with love and approach every aspect of life with a clear and sound mind, as stated in 2 Timothy 1:7. When we stop defending our identity, we create space for growth, self-discovery, and authenticity. We no longer feel the need to conform to rigid definitions of who we should be but instead embrace the freedom to explore different aspects of ourselves without fear of judgment, criticism, or rejection. One of the most powerful aspects of not defending our identity is its potential to challenge stereotypes and dismantle harmful societal norms. By refusing to be confined to narrow labels, we defy expectations and assert our right to self-determination.

Taking the time to invest in who you are, saves you a lot of problems including heartbreaks. Understanding who you are and what/who you represent gives you room to see people for who they are, this is just by knowing yourself first and it gets even better, knowing thyself through Christ. You get to understand them from their angle thus giving you the leverage to feel how they potentially feel and possibly pray for them. When we embrace fluidity in identity, we also become more open-minded and empathetic towards others. By recognizing the complexity of our own identities, we can better understand and appreciate the diverse experiences of those around us.

Instead of defending our identities, what if we embraced the journey of self-discovery? What if we allowed ourselves the freedom to explore, question, and redefine who we are without the fear of judgment or rejection? By relinquishing the need to defend our identity, we open ourselves up to endless possibilities for growth, evolution, and self-actualization. Life is messy, nuanced, and beautifully complex—and so are our identities. By embracing this complexity and letting go of the need to defend our identity, we can navigate the intricacies of human existence with grace and humility. Rather than seeking certainty in fixed labels, we can find comfort in the ever-unfolding journey of self-discovery and self-expression.